The idea of marriage has always been in almost every girl’s dream. Waiting for the proposal! However, there are a number of men do not believe in marriage. What happens when you are dating a wonderful Mr Right but he thinks the piece of paper isn’t needed. “We have everything! our love is true! We are together! I love you and always will! You love me! We don’t need that piece of paper!” It happens more to couples who are either had experience divorce or couples who are over the 40s.
Whenever I heard that my mind would ask what is that “piece of paper” means? I tend to separate the meaning of marriage and wedding. I am only focused on marriage. Marriage is between the two people with the wedding rings, the vows and the marriage certificate. The meaning of the wedding ring is a circle has no beginning or end and is, therefore, a symbol of infinity. Forever love will never end! Vows are not only the promise and commitment to each other to enter the marriage but I also believe it shows each other faith and trust that both will commit to each other through good times and challenges. Last, it is both signing the marriage contract or the marriage certificate which sounds better. The action of signing your name on this ‘piece of paper’ becomes a responsibility which is so different than signing an apartment leasing agreement to move-in together. One is for life. There is no exit! The other could be a 6 months lease or 12 months lease that gives both an option to end.
Let’s go back to the words, ‘piece of paper’. If two people have no interests in having children, in a committed relationship with their hearts and soul, do we really need the ring and vows plus that ‘piece of paper’? If marriage means the world to you, can you sacrifice that for your Mr Right? or you are afraid that you won’t find Mr Perfect who also believe in marriage. Same for the men. I don’t have the answer. However, only you can answer this question, “Something you desire so much and have a huge meaning to you but you could not have it. Can you live with that?”
This quote always troubles me in many ways:
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